Research shows that taking only a few minutes to analyze our feelings before a potentially stressful situation can make a significant difference in our response and the outcome. Feelings are automatic, both positive and unpleasant ones. We can become much more aware of our feelings and use them to our benefit thus, experiencing the most joy possible.
As humans we are emotional beings. Learning to understand our emotions and what event triggers a particular emotional response helps us gain control over our actions and teaches us to make positive choices through reason rather than being powerless over our emotions and our responses.
Using these tools will result in being better able to control our anger, shame and handle the times we feel humiliated. Disputes will end better. You will be better able to express your painful feelings in productive ways.